Sunday, June 04, 2006
1:32 AM
Nagging
Ok i guess pple might sae im an abnormal guy coz i actually bought a book by Allan and Barbara Pease on Why Men Dont Have a Clue and Women Need More Shoes haha its one of those books 2 enhance relationships like Men are from Mars, Women from Venus. That book i mentioned earlier is the 2nd installation by the Pease (i read the 1st one coz jannah made me =p)
I guess i shall update bits and pieces as i go along hehe juz for information for those who are interested...Nagging is common place for all relationships ie bf/gf, husband/wife, mother/children, in-laws/wife and etc Nagging is done in hope that it will spur the victim to positive action and to be made to feel guilty for nt completing somethin yet...it creates a retreatist mechanism and a defensive barrier that the victim hides behind. Nagging then contributes to communication breakdowns between partners (so dats bad) i guess the solution is 2 be engaging and be inclusive in solving problems, instead if an indirect way of communicating wad u wan which will moz of the time, be interpreted incorrectly
some funny quotes dat im sure u hav heard b4 =p
a) A woman needs to know but one man well to understand all men; whereas a man may know all the women and not understand one of them - Helen Rowland
b) If a woman slaps a man in public, everyone assumes that he's in the wrong
c) Types of Nagging:
1. Single-Subject Nag: "Da vacuum rumah? Nanti vacuum tau jangan lupe. 5 mins later...cepat vacuum nanti petang nak kluar. ...etc etc
2. Multi-Nag: "Kol brape balik skolah? Jangan balik lambat2. Jgn balik ngan laki2, beli roti time nak balik...."
3. Beneficial-Nag: " Skrg masenye utk belajar. Kalau nak berkawan tu bole tapi ingat, jangan buat bende2 yg tk senonoh. Keluar tu jage anak orang lain. Its all for your safety etc"
hahaha =p
.sincera fazzy.
