Now that is an 'elitist' top-down mindset. Have we ever wondered about the bottom-up process? That perhaps there is an expectation from friends/family that once you are successful, you are SUPPOSED to help and not doing so legitmize you as being 'sombong'. "mentang2 dah pandai...gini ah, lupekan member" etc etc...now is it truly helping out or has it become a burden? This is what i call 'bottom-up self help' ideology (Fadzli, 2008) haha with help from kamie and maly :p

there is a new superhero in town...sepetman to the rescue!!!! :p

Before you all say whaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaat??????? Listen me out first hehe then u can disagree :P

Before that....i shall dedicate dis short segment to kamie. Ok dear dear kamie....jangan lah marah. You know im juz fooling ard and i do treat u as a good goood goood goood gooood friend :) And u can always count on me yea? hehe

Ok back to the topic at hand. And my point of referral would be High School Musical 3 hehe well i think its really a good show, superb sets and musicals and not too bad a plot. I just wanna bring your attention to 2 points in the show. 1) Remember the part where gabriella says 'i love you but goodbye? and then troy da stoned tak tau ape nak buat...den ltr on, he decided to drive all the way up to stanford in his rundown, da nak mampos truck...to meet gabriella and dance the prom wif her? its so....'awwwwwwwwwwwwww' kan kan kan? well then gabriella decided to return wif him to be part of the finale of the musical.

Lets get back to reality. I know in any argument, in any unhappy moment or in a confusing situation when a girl doesnt noe wad to do, she wishes that her bf does something to cheer her up. This is wad she expects. The Big Bang...something so WOW that makes her forget wad she is unhappy about. The needed push to make a particular decision (its always a toss and turn abt wad to do - i love you but i need 2 sae good bye). I dont blame girls for feeling this way. It is something that is yearned and i noe things like these can make you so so so happy :) But lemme tell you, not all guys are Troy. At least not in times like that...when u are as confused as the girl.you know u wan to make her feel better but you just dont know how. And thinking out of the box to do something like dat....it takes ALOT. im not saying its impossible but its unlikely almost 60% of the time (ni i main qualify je haha). The guy will be thinking why why why? why she behaving like this....and no idea how to react. One, he can ignore and juz let her become all well and pretend nothing happened. Two, he can get angry and uptight. Three, he presses and keep asking wads wrong but being pushed away. Four, do the troy thing (maybe to a lesser extent)

What im trying to say is....guys are clueless in situations like this. They can be sweet and all but at times like this wen it matters most. They have no idea wad to do. Guys are not Troy. Girls think guys SHOULD be Troy hehe know wad i mean?

Ok the 2nd issue. Now remember wen ryan's sister (charpeee?) told Troy dat Gabriella is going off and its so sad dat he doesnt noe yet wen everyone else knows already? How would u feel? Unhappy right and confused why she diden tell you first. So how does he respond? Hmmmm....having a picnic of pizza and strawberries in a basket ala romeo and juliet...I bet girls wish dat happens.... :P im not trying to blame girls nor trying to give excuses for guys. im just saying dat we need to be aware that these are the mental thoughts of each other. Communication is important, less assumptions and i think it would be a better world :)

Of coz this is totally falsifiable.......it is my opinion and i noe i have never figured it out. i never will, but den again....dats the whole beauty of any relationship :)