Thursday, September 14, 2006
4:35 PM
BGR
Had another 'heart-to-heart' session wif hakim ahakz...dis time the topic was on BGR =p hakim asked this question....
Can you marry someone who is not your boyfriend/girlfriend but whom ure emotionally close to? I guess most would find it abit strange...because it juz isnt the norm. Its said to be normal to be in a relationship with someone...den 'tunang' (in the malay context) and then proceed to marriage.
Perhaps, this notion of boy-girl relationship has become so entrenched in our psyche dat we fail to notice that there are other ways to approach marriage. People argue that BGR is a testing stage, or an experimental platform to see whether he or she is the right one for you. However, this in itself is probably a preconceived concept dat has been internalised together with BGR as a cross cultural phenomenon.
There are many cases around the world where arranged marriages have succeeded even more than marriages that stem from BGRs. Even in some parts of the world where women are abused by their husbands, yet they still fulfill their duty as a wife contributes to the fact that marriage as an institution is still strong.
In the experience of BGR...we face problems and wen we cant solve dem...we break up. When infidelity occurs, we break up. When we see that there is no hope or future in the relationship, we break up. this is kinda synonymous with marriage and divorces. so...is bgr really important? who noes hehehe
.sincera fazzy.
