Thursday, October 11, 2007
12:12 PM
Stories And Happiness
I was talking to Hakim and Maly...the 2 ex-presidents....nez time bile da tua, i can tell my anak2 or cucu2 dat 'long before your time, in the western division of spore....i had 2 great frens who were the greatest presidents of their time (in my sepet eyes of course). And i had a crazy bunch of soon-to-be cronyistic friends yg makan nutella banana at musollah etc etc etc....."
Haha learnt in childhood and youth dat those 'stories' dat ur parents/grandparents keep repeating over and over and over and over again...is a marker of your identity of ur family. It has a moral twist at the end - 'be like dis person, dun be like dis person'. Like for example how my nenek, everytime i push her on the wheelchair or help her walk or eat her food, she will say....'dah besar fadzli. Dulu kecik2 nenek jaga, masak satu tgn, angkat fadzli lagi satu tgn...kalo tkde pape kat tv, bukak je 'andy lawson' the motor racer nanti fadzli tgk diam2. Skrg dah besar, fadzli pulak jaga nenek'
OR
'ingat fadzli suka makan cake? adelah mintak banana 'take' banana take...ape budak ni nak? ape tu banana take? rupenye banana CAKE *laughs* abeh bile tido, si apek van roti dtg horn2...atok kau lari kluar marah tu apek ckp cucu dier tgh tido'
And i get this 2 stories everytime i go to my rumah nenek on weekends for the past dunno how many years hahaha and if u actualli see beyond those stories...it actualli talks abt morality and filial piety. How dey have shown unconditional love in taking care of me... :D I noe each of u have ur own 'stories' repeated to u over and over again hehehe i dare u to share hehe
Anyway, back to the 2 greatest (x)presidents - they were telling me abt dis complex concept called 'being happi and making others happi'. It has to do with negotiation and reconciliation and compromise...and i think dats tough coz there is always a sacrifice to be made, be it wad u want/happiness and abt what others want of u/making others happi' Sometimes, being selfish is the only way to get what u want, if u keep thinking abt wad others think/feel den u never get what u want. Its all about rational thinkin...den again the problem is that if u keep thinking and harping and weighing everythin out...haha penat seh. U just do it...
.sincera fazzy.
